with an Eating Disorder
I really wanted God to give me something special
for this week's TFTW and I believe this is it. I have had this sitting
on my computer for a long time cos I asked a friend of mine Dawn,
who is a Christian psychologist, to write something on this for
me. I really have had the theme of 'truth setting you free' on my
heart for most of today and believe this is the time for this.
I think that some people may feel that this
is an inappropriate forum for this type of this which is very sensitive
but I think, along with some topics we have touched on, that it
is a topic no one ever speaks about and so where is the appropriate
forum? It is important to get this into the light as the power of
darkness and secrecy has such a strong hold in keeping the person
bound and hopefully we can get some help for some people through
Secondly there may be a lot of you who think
that this doesn't relate to you and if it doesn't (As with any thort
that may or may not be relevant - would be strange perhaps if each
single thort had relevance to you) then you are welcome to delete
it, but before you do I would encourage you to check with God that
it doesn't relate to you. You may not struggle with it personally
but you may know someone who does or you may know someone that you
don't know struggles with this. Pray and put the matter before God
and ask Him what to do with this and then at the very least start
praying for the very people you know do suffer with it or ask God
to reveal to you people who may be struggling with it so you can
be praying for them.
I am not a fan of statistics but a few months
ago on a camp a friend of mine who attends a girl's school told
me something like 70% of the girls at the school suffer from eating
disorders and while I pray to God that that is way over the top
in terms of exaggeration, it obviously means that a whole LOT of
girls do struggle with it.
God IS the answer. God CAN bring freedom. If
you are reading this and are caught up in some kind of overly strict
eating control and know you have a problem, please realise that
God is absolutely passionate about you and is the One who can set
God bless you and thankx to Dawn Codrington
for writing the article - please speak up to someone (someone who
loves you, Dawn, me) if you are caught up in this thing and let's
get going on the road to recovery.
with an Eating Disorder
By Dawn Codrington
Do you sometimes feel that you are seeking God
but struggling to find answers? Sometimes, we don't always feel
that He is really here and sometimes I've questioned whether He
even loves me. These doubts come out of pain that God understands.
We need to keep seeking and KNOW and believe (even if it is just
in our heads for a while) that He DOES love us. When dealing with
an eating disorder we need to remind ourselves that our perceptions
are malfunctioning. What we think or feel is not necessarily true.
Do you understand what drives your bulimia
or anorexia? Do you struggle with:
- feeling out of control?
- an excessive need for perfection?
- anxiety for the approval of others?
- feeling unclean or dirty?
Restricted eating, binging and vomiting fulfil
a role to relieve pain. Before you even try to overcome the eating
issues, you need to understand the pain behind it. You need to face
the abuse, rejection, anxiety... Seeing a Christian psychologist
who can help you work out what's driving the dependence on or avoidance
of food is a vital. Perhaps you could phone some local churches
and ask for the number of a CHRISTIAN PSYCHOLOGIST, not just a counsellor.
You don't have to give your name when you phone.
Do you sometimes say,"I don't know how
to talk to God about it. Or rather I do, but part of me has accepted
this way of life and that this is what I have to do to make myself
a whole person." You need to keep speaking to God about it.
He is the One, together with you, who has the power to change you.
The devil feeds us the lie that maybe we have to settle for second
best. But Jesus said, "I have come that they [you] may have
life, and have it to the full." (John 10:10)
It seems to me that you, like all of us, are
battling to distinguish between truth and lies. Make a list of some
of the lies that are consuming your mind. Try to find statements
of truth to help you fight these lies.
The devil uses our thoughts to control us -
we need to fight back with true thoughts. Read Matt 4:1-11 and Luke
4:1-13 to see how Jesus fought the devil's lies. Note that Jesus
was "full of the Holy Spirit" (Luke 4:1) when the devil
attacked. Attack does not imply that you are a bad Christian. Rather,
it seems that the devil attacks those that are a threat to him,
those who mean business with God. Be encouraged, but read Ephesians
6. It seems that you need to put on God's armour.
God never allows us to go through more than
we can handle. Why is God allowing you to go through this? What
are you meant to be learning? What tools is He giving you so that
you can pass them on to others?
Face the pain. Look into it and go to God for
the answers. He is walking with you. I know because He walks with
me. Tell Him honestly how angry and lost you feel. Declare your
dependence on Him. He is the only way.
Lack of trust and the pain of rejection often
keeps these problems alive. I had to learn to trust God again before
I could trust others. I needed to turn to God for acceptance and
love. There are two books that I recommend at this time: Shattered
Dreams by Larry Crabb and Rejection by Steve Hepden When you cry,
God cries with you. He feels your pain with His heart. That is what
it means to have compassion!
is a very brief handling of the topic and there is so much to it
for sure, but hopefully it can get some people facing up to some
things in their lives - if you are one of those people, please speak
to someone. If you know someone like that and you think this article
might be useful to them by all means pass it on maybe as something
interesting you read if you don't want to be too obvious.
I know there are a few other Christian specialists
that receive TFTW that might have some helpful tips and info to
pass on and I am willing to give this topic a little time because
I think it is SO necessary and so please feel free to respond and
if I think your stuff is useful then I may use it next time.
We talk about God being a God of power who
changes lives and I really believe that goes far deeper than just
getting people to sign up to Christianity. It is about changed lives
and freedom from the addictions and sin and struggles that hold
us captive. New life in Jesus, filled with the Holy Spirit which
we are reminded in Timothy is a Spirit of 'Love and Power and Self-Discipline'
- fully equipped to handle this sort of thing.